[I know, I would try to keep the blog updated at least weakly, but I already failed... What can I say, it's a busy season. Holiday's a comin! ^_^]If you have Chinese parents, then you'll probably know what I'm talking about. Every now and then my parents go out to dinner with some friends, and since I'm in the neighbourhood I tag along (what can I say, it's free food). If it's a Chinese restaurant, it's usually very rowdy (a real Chinese restaurant, where Chinese people come.
Not the takeaway Chinese where you'll never see a Chinese person eat..). People chatting away at the top of their voice, bursts of laughter, a great mess on the table (who needs table manners if you've got so many delicious food to eat!). But even if it's not a Chinese restaurant, they're still loud.
Nothing, however, gets as loud as the explosion when it's time to pay the bill. When Dutch friends go out to eat, it's pretty easy: you
go Dutch. As it says in Wiki, it's pretty easy. Everyone pays for himself or herself (they also have a list of some other
Dutch phrases). Chinese however, go on a battle frenzy. Not that they have to fight about who has to pay for it, but rather who
gets to pay for it. Eeeeverybody wanna pay the bill. Letting someone else pay is like a deadly insult to honour or something. I've seen people
actually fighting over the bill, trying to grab it, the waiter that held it looked as if he were facing two crocodiles fighting over a piece of meat.
This particular time my parents went to dinner with one friend, and thought to outsmart her by paying before they had finished dinner. It was a buffet, and she was just getting some more food. But the friend had already outsmarted them by paying before dinner even started! Outrage on the faces of my parents, I swear they looked as if
gambling had been made illegal. Down, but not defeated, they called one of the waitresses which they knew personally, and had her retrieve the money our friend had already given. (The waitress could see the storm clouds already...) Then they paid the bill themselves, and snuck the money half under a plate, so it wouldn't be directly obvious.
When the friend discovered it, my mom had come up with a great story:
"Yeah, one of the waitresses came by and just handed the money back, said it was no good!"-_______-I'd like to see the day when paying for something and they say,
"Sorry, your can't pay here, here's your money back"
In the end the friend gave in, well she was outnumbered 2 to 1, I tried to stay away from all this as much as possible. Arguing about who
gets to pay the bill is one of the stupidest thing I've ever seen. If someone wants to let them pay, let them! If they're insincere, then
haha! it's your own fault. If they are sincere, however, don't squash their good feeling of picking up the tab by declaring war on it. I can understand arguing for it, if someone pays all the time it's only natural for the other to try to pay for it sometime. But arguments that rival street riots are way exaggerated.
+40 in annoyance intoleranceGained 1 level in annoyance intolerance!